My weight has been something I’ve never had to monitor — well, until now.
I breezed through high school barely coming in at 100 pounds. My first year of college, the freshman 15 seemed to be a myth. And the following three years to come, I ate what I wanted and watched my waist line shrink.
Somehow, someone forgot to warn me about the post-grad 15. They forgot to mention that my metabolism would probably slow down. They forgot share a beware of all the leftovers in the office kitchen. No one even mentioned all the lunch meetings, dinner meetings, and meetings over coffee. Good lord, let’s not forget all the irresistible candy throughout the workplace. Or better yet, the staff meetings and holiday parties full of food.
I should go ahead and note that I’m no where close to overweight.. and that’s the problem. I have put a little bit of weight and my body has started the natural process of becoming a woman. So why do I feel like I could stand to lose 20 lbs?
I guess I am writing this for all you women out there with the New Year’s Resolution to lose weight, including myself.
Halfway through this year, when most of us have long given up on our resolution to become skinny, we will have a renewed hatred towards all the thin girls in the media. We will spout things across social platforms like Jennifer Lawrence quotes that read: “In Hollywood I’m considered obese. I’m considered fat. I’m never going to starve myself for a part.” We will include hashtags like #rolemodel and #happywithme trying to convince ourselves we ARE happy with our body types.
But we are the same women conforming and rushing out to the gym the first of the year, overanalyzing what we wear to workout, and hating more than our bodies while we are exercising — hating ourselves.
So here we go ladies… here’s my call to action.
How can we be proactive about loving ourselves and our body types if we are the first ones to rush to gym and resolve to lose the weight the media says we need to lose? How can we become comfortable with who we are if we are trying all those fad detox diets as a quick fix? What about all those fit instagram accounts you follow? How can you love yourself if you’re staring at super-fit bodies that work out more than most of us really have time? We are just feeding into the media frenzy of brainwashing us into believing what we are suppose to be instead of accepting who we are. Because let’s be honest, for 95% of us, a year from now.. will we not be in the same boat? Proclaiming the same things? “2015 is my fit year!”
We have to commit 100%. Not to the gym, not to losing weight, and not to getting that impossible Victoria Secret body, but instead to becoming comfortable in our own skin, becoming healthy/fit, and becoming content.
We can’t go buying up all those fad diets and gym memberships, and then throw rocks at the media when they post things like this:
Yes. They called that girl plus-sized, making us all feel extra insecure about ourselves.
I will note that I am in no way making an excuse. If you need to lose weight to be healthy, you really should try to take that step for yourself. BUT do it for YOU, not because you feel obligated and the media “tells” you should be doing it. Trust me, if it’s not genuinely for you, it won’t last.
Besides, even when I was extra skinny, I never felt skinny enough. My body still didn’t match up to that of a Victoria Secret Model and to me, that felt like failure.
It’s time for us to stand up for what is realistic and for most women that’s being healthy.. not perfect.
This year, don’t let anyone tell you what you should look like. Don’t look at the scale.. Who cares about that number? Get to where you feel healthiest, get fit, and be happy with you.
I have gathered some videos, quotes, and photos to remind right NOW just how beautiful you are as you are. Read, watch, and realize right now what’s important.
Happy Healthy New Years, Ladies.